Resources for Wedding Couples

All the juicy details as we create your sacred day!

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Our Process Together...

As the three of us stand under the chuppah together, it is most important that I fully capture your essence, values, and playfulness as a couple. We deepen the process of getting to know each other over 5-6 sessions. We meet in my cozy living room (with cookies!) or over video chat platforms.

Pre-Session One

Either over phone or in person, you share a bit about your journey, what a Jewish wedding means to you, your vision for your wedding, and a little about your spiritual backgrounds. I share my approach to working with couples, go over how our time is structured, and answer any questions the two of you have.

Session One

Together, we'll talk about your family and religious backgrounds, how and where Judaism plays a role in your home life, and what a Jewish wedding means to you. Understanding each of your backgrounds is paramount as I tailor my approach to working with each couple.

Before Session One:

Please fill out the Intake Form below.

Please purchase these books (full descriptions here):

THE JEWISH WEDDING NOW BY ANITA DIAMANT

CELEBRATING INTERFAITH MARRIAGES BY RABBI DEVON A. LERNER

1001 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED BY MONICA MENDEZ LEAHY

Start thinking about your ketubah, or Jewish wedding contract. Many couples find ketubot on etsy.com, ketubah.com, and ketubahketubah.com...have fun finding one that captures you as a couple!

Session Two

We'll delve into each of your personalities, and how your differences and similarities strengthen and support each other. Then we'll play the Newlywed Game!

Before Session Two:

Each person, please take the 5 Love Languages Quiz here.

Each person please take the Enneagram assessment here.

Session Three

We'll go over all the details of your ceremony and personalize it fully.

Before Session Three:

Please read The Jewish Wedding Now and Celebrating Interfaith Marriages.

Session Four

Depending on each couple, we'll explore spirituality, finances, sexuality, rituals, and your continued growth and delight together. Options abound with creative art projects to capture your values and goals. I tailor this session a lot depending on what each couple seeks to explore.

Before Session Four:

Please peruse these exercises. Choose the questions that speak to you as a couple and jot down notes to jog your memory for our discussion. We'll focus more on Spirituality together. We can discuss Finances and Sexuality if a couple chooses.

Finances: Part 8 of 1001 Questions to Ask Before Your Get Married

Sexuality: Part 9 of 1001 Questions to Ask Before Your Get Married

Spirituality: Chap 21 of 1001 Questions to Ask Before Your Get Married

Session Five

We'll do a run-through of your ceremony and finalize any outstanding details. Then I'll ask some fun mushy questions (mushy is how I roll) that I'll incorporate during the ceremony as I speak about the two of you.

Please fill out the form below before we have our first pre-marital meeting. It will take about 15 minutes. Looking forward to learning more about each other!